You know the voice; it might be your own, or the words of others who know about your affair. I’m sure it’s past the warning light stage of guilt now- it’s moved into the realm of shame where you hate yourself for what you’ve done. Maybe you used to judge people who committed adultery before. I know I probably did. It was easier to remove myself from the possibility of ever falling into this trap myself, by thinking it’s just those ‘bad people’ who do this.
But now you’re named among those, and you don’t know how you can ever live with yourself or how to help your husband heal, because all you see and feel every day is the shame from your sin. Some of you may even be contemplating suicide because of it. That is what shame does.
Friend, I want to ask you- what is continuously punishing yourself or hating yourself doing for you now?
