While there are meaningful differences in every unloved daughter’s story, there are nonetheless broad commonalities. Understanding them and seeing the role each plays in your own life can be the first of many steps towards healing.
Some of these are consciously perceived, though we may not put them in context and connect them to childhood experiences for years and years. Anecdotally at least — from my research and interviews over the last 20 years — recognition of how childhood experiences affect the present usually doesn’t begin until a woman is in her late 30s or 40s, and often later.
If you’ve had a difficult childhood and felt under the thumb of a controlling, combative, or narcissistic mother, young adulthood brings with it a sense of opportunity as you literally get out from under by moving. Alas, the reality is, chances are good that you’re not seeing how much emotional baggage accompanies you on the trip out. Why is recognition so slow?
Persecution Live 