A Cruel Thing I Said As A Kid Made Me A Pariah For Years. Here’s What I Wish I Knew Then. “From that day forward, I was cast out. The teachers glared at me, shaking their heads and whispering under their breath. None of the kids would play with me.”

The author in 1992 at the age of 12 wearing clothes she’d gotten for her birthday and enjoying one of the rare moments of glee that only came in the presence of her family.COURTESY OF GAIL CORNWALL

At my California high school, my best friend Jeannette and I lived parallel lives: Advanced Placement classes, trivia competitions, swimming and track. We were nerds, sort of, but also jocks, sort of, and as a result were pretty much never invited to parties. Instead, we’d siphon small amounts of liquor out of five or six bottles from her father’s cabinet, combine it all into a Nalgene and go bowling. She felt deeply uncool. I thought we were awesome.

I puzzled over the difference in our perspective for decades, only recently realizing that I felt perfectly acceptable, though not totally accepted, because I knew what it meant to be truly unpopular.

Women Are Taught To Be Nice. Here’s What Happened When I Stopped. “I wasn’t in touch with myself or my needs and, in fact, I felt guilty for having any.”


A few years ago, if we were out together and I noticed that you had something stuck in your teeth, that little speck would spark a huge dilemma for me. I’d stare at it while considering the discomfort it would cause both of us if I told you, yet also imagine your horror at discovering it after a full day of flashing what you thought was a perfect smile.

Despite this awareness, I’d likely avoid our discomfort and let that little speck remain ― I’d choose the “nice” option.

This scenario exemplifies what I’ve learned about the difference between being nice and being kind. I’ve spent the majority of my life being nice — a people pleaser — avoiding confrontation and the discomfort I’d feel from making those around me uncomfortable.

My moment of greatest shame around this was over a decade ago when I essentially broke up with a boyfriend of two years over text because I couldn’t handle having an uncomfortable conversation with him, not that day or any day of our relationship, which would have been the kind thing to do.

I even convinced myself that this was the nice option, allowing him to receive the bad news privately without me there to witness his reaction. But in truth, I was hiding from his discomfort, and thus my own.

Parents Receive Godsend Just As They’re At Wits’ End Trying To Manage 6-Year-Old’s Illness

Technology is saving a little girl’s life through artificial pancreas development. No more finger pricks and checking sugar levels every two hours. Parents receive Godsend news just as they are at their wits’ end trying to manage their six-year-old child’s illness.

Charlotte Abbott-Pierce was a normal little girl full of life and spunk until she began showing symptoms of an underlying disease. She became thirsty, lethargic after eating, and needed to use the bathroom frequently.

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2nd Graders Write Letters From Shelter Animals’ Perspectives To Help Them Get Adopted

A second grade teacher created a writing assignment for her students that is helping local shelter animals find forever homes.

Credit: Richmond Animal Care and Control

Teacher Kensey Jones asked her students at St. Michael’s Episcopal School in Richmond, Virginia, to draw pictures of animals at Richmond Animal Care and Control (RACC) and then write letters from the perspectives of the animals themselves to try and help them get adopted.

“The class was working on persuasive writing, and they wrote pieces as if they were speaking on behalf of the shelter dog trying to get adopted,” Christie Peters, director of RACC, told Fox News.

“I said, ‘That’s the coolest idea … let’s do it!”

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Wales Bans Physical Punishment Against Children, Including Smacking And Slapping

Isn’t it strange that in most places the only humans you are legally allowed to hit are children?

As of March 21, all forms of physical punishment against children (such as smacking, hitting, slapping and shaking) is illegal in Wales.

The law change was hailed as “historic” by the Welsh government and a number of child protection champions, who called for England to follow suit.

The law will apply to everybody in Wales, including visitors.

“Today is a historic moment for children and their rights in Wales as we make physically punishing children a thing of the past,” said Julie Morgan, the deputy minister for social services, who has campaigned for the law change for more than two decades.

According to Welsh Government surveys, parents of young children in Wales have shown a significant shift in attitude over the past decade. For example, in 2019, 70% of parents and guardians of young children in Wales disagreed that it is sometimes necessary to smack a child, compared with 59% in a similar survey in 2018.

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Louisiana Man Rescues Boy From Alligator-Infested Waters

A Louisiana man has been credited with rescuing a young boy from alligator-infested waters.

Daniel Duplantier / Westwego Volunteer Fire Company

Daniel Duplantier jumped into action when he heard a young child calling for help.

According to a Facebook post by the Westwego Volunteer Fire Company, the 5-year-old boy fell into the canal near the pumping station.

Duplantier happened to be watching alligators in the canal when the incident occurred.

He acted fast and successfully pulled the 5-year-old from the water. Rescue crews then helped bring the child safely back across the canal.

The post concluded, “Spring is upon us and Summer is near, keep a close eye on children around waterways and swimming pools.”

“Please give him a plaque and possible a reward. Even if he were at the right place at the right time, he acted a hero. God Bless him and the 5 year old,” one user commented.

“Thank you, sir, for your heroism! Blessings to you all. You protected a family from a lifetime of grief,” wrote another.

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98-Year-Old ‘Postman’ At Care Home Gifted Royal Mail Uniform

A 98-year-old care home resident in the UK has been gifted an official Royal Mail postman’s uniform so that he can look the part while delivering mail to residents.

Ray Stanley / Upton Bay Care Home

Ray Stanley took it upon himself to deliver the mail to the residents at Upton Bay Care Home (UBCH) in Poole after moving into the facility.

However, the role is not easy for a 98-year-old man as the care home has three floors.

Stanley wished for a uniform to reflect his hard work, and the care home considered buying one but hoped to find him something authentic.

UBCH staff contacted the Royal Mail to ask if a uniform might be available, and they gifted Stanley an embroidered shirt, cap and iconic red bag.

Stanley wears the uniform on his delivery round which he makes sure to complete before 2 p.m. every day.

“It gives me the chance to talk to other residents, who otherwise I might not see everyday,” he said.

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4 Tigers Rescued After Being Locked In A Train Car For 15 Years

Four Bengal tigers have been rescued from captivity and will spend the rest of their days in a big cat sanctuary in South Africa.

The tigers lived in a train car converted into a cage in the Argentine province of San Luis for over 15 years.

A traveling circus abandoned the now 18-year-old male and 15-year-old female tiger in San Luis in 2007. A local farmer agreed to look after the pair for a temporary period, but the circus never returned. They eventually had two cubs.

The tigers, named Sandro, Mafalda, Messi and Gustavo, now call the LIONSROCK Big Cat Sanctuary in Bethlehem, South Africa home.

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4-Year-Old Found ‘Safe And Well’ After 2 Days Lost In Southern Tasmania

Four-year-old Shayla Phillips has been found “safe and well” in southern Tasmania more than two days after she was reported missing by her family.

Shayla disappeared on Wednesday afternoon from the backyard of her family’s home while playing with the dog.

The dog was located 700 meters away about five hours later but there was no sign of Shayla.

After two nights alone in the open bushland, Shayla was found — about 1 kilometer from her home.

She was located by a State Emergency Service (SES) ground party “in a heavily wooded and very slopey” terrain.

Police said Shayla was dehydrated and disorientated and was taken to Hobart by ambulance for assessment after being “reacquainted with her mother”

Inspector Gavin Hallett said it was a “very emotional” reunion.

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