Once you know what you want, make it so. You start the ball rolling. I can tell you that you are worthy, beautiful, enough and that you matter. It is all true, and yet it likely isn’t sinking in. The voice that will make the most impact is YOU. Until you believe your worthiness, it…

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It’s important to understand what narcissism is. It’s a personality disorder, a more or less fixed and unhealthy way that people relate in the world. It’s characterized by self-involvement, a sense of superiority to others, lack of empathy towards people, a need to be admired, and avoidance of feeling shame. Narcissists can be, but are…

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Respond with kindness, but not with blindness, or the sort of “kindness” that is mistaken for weakness, is key. Defend yourself, without attacking your narcissistic mother. Make sure in the responses that you are firm, yet not invalidating, of your narcissistic mother. Don’t blame and shame. Make statements that bring clarity, and establish appropriate boundaries.…

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The first step in dealing with a narcissistic mother is to learn about the nature of narcissism and the origins of narcissism. More specifically, this means educating oneself on narcissistic injury and its impact on emotional development. Education will equip a person to deal with a narcissistic mother, but more than education is needed. Narcissistic…

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Infants are completely helpless, and completely dependent on adults to attend to their needs. As children grow, and gradually become able to more effectively advocate for their needs and to do some things for themselves, mirroring between the child and the mother/parental figures, becomes more complex. It becomes more difficult to draw the line between…

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The first thing to note about narcissistic mothers is that most are likely to have been narcissistically wounded as children. Narcissistic wounding generally occurs through a process known as mirroring. Mirroring is an interaction that begins at birth. It is an interaction that generally occurs between the mother, or caretaker and the infant. There is…

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