Category: Spiritual

All men love $ex, and women just have to grin and bear it? That’s what a lot of selfish guys are happy to let you believe, but it’s not Biblical. God created $ex to be enjoyed by both the man AND the woman, and it’s okay to enjoy it! You’re supposed to!

In fact, did you know that God made one part of your body with the SOLE purpose of providing $exual pleasure? Why would He give it to you if He didn’t expect you and your husband to take full advantage of it?? $ex is for you too! Your husband will enjoy it more if you let yourself enjoy it!

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Of course, just because God created $ex within marriage to be good, that doesn’t mean $ex is automatically going to be wonderful as soon as you’re married.

If you experimented sexually before marriage (even if it was with your husband), you could have inadvertently created $exual baggage you’ll then bring into your marriage. Or even if you waited until marriage, you might have other hurts, fears or hang-ups that get in your way.

Plus, you might be brand new and just plain not know what you’re doing yet. Every person likes different things, and it takes a lot of time and practice to really reach the level of intimacy God created us to have. (Those these Christian $ex tips can help shorten the learning curve!)

So if $ex isn’t awesome right off the bat — that’s okay! Sometimes there are obstacles you have to unroot and take care of first, and plus, it just takes some practice. Being one with someone isn’t easy. You have to work at it! So don’t feel bad if it isn’t all unicorns and rainbows right away.

Marriage isn’t a magic pill; it’s a life-long commitment and good $ex / intimacy does take work.

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Sure, some of the ways $ex is practiced today are wrong or dirty, but $ex as a whole is certainly not wrong or dirty. $ex was God’s idea. It’s God’s gift to us. There’s even a whole book of the Bible devoted to celebrating the love between a young man and his new bride, and it’s seriously graphic!

“How beautiful you are and how pleasing,
my love, with your delights!
Your stature is like that of the palm,
and your breasts like clusters of fruit.
I said, ‘I will climb the palm tree;
I will take hold of its fruit.’”

–Song of Songs 7:6-8a

In the Old Testament, new husbands weren’t allowed to go to war during the first year of their marriage because they had to stay home and “please their wives.”

“If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married.” –Deuteronomy 24:5

 

And in the New Testament, married couples were encouraged NOT to stop having sex.

“Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” –1 Corinthians 7:5

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Did your parents teach you about sex when you were growing up?

Did they do a good job? Or did you have to learn most of what you know at school, at church, on the playground, or even in books or on websites once you were older?

It’s funny, for a culture where $ex is so prevalent (it’s hard to watch a show that doesn’t include or at least reference it–even on so-called “family” channels), we really don’t talk about $ex the way we should.

It’s all jokes and references–not really the information that Christian women need to know.

And as a result, there are a LOT of misconceptions about what $ex is, what it’s for, and what it does to us spiritually and emotionally — even among Christian women who are old enough to know better!

Personally, I think my mom did a pretty good job of teaching me the things I’d need to know. And yet, I still grew up with tons of misconceptions and misunderstandings that I was taught–not by my parents, but by the CHURCH of all places, and by the culture around me. Maybe you did too.

Do any of these 7 Lies Christian Women Believe About $ex sound familiar to you?

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