Category: Self-Help

Once you begin down the path of facing and tackling your problems, you’ll need to consciously put some time in your diary for activities that can take your mind off your problems.

Taking your mind off your problems is different to running away from them. You acknowledge that they exist, but you accept that if you try to tackle everything at once, you are likely to feel overwhelmed by it all or risk burnout.

It’s worth noting that you will get more done and tackle more problems in the long run if you give yourself a bit of downtime in between periods of sustained effort.

The trick is not to fall into a false sense of security and spend too long on leisure activities in any one go. You risk losing your momentum if you don’t get back to the issues at hand within a reasonable timeframe.

What is a reasonable timeframe will depend on your circumstances and mental health, but your intuition will be able to guide you. At some point, you’ll just know that you’ve rested long enough and that you should begin to find solutions to your problems once again.

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Despite what it sounds like, running away from your problems doesn’t involve movement of any sort. In fact, it keeps you firmly fixed in place, even if you manage to find a way to temporarily escape the clutches of whatever it is you are running from.

If you can just get moving a little bit, figuratively speaking, then you can start to build up some momentum, and momentum is a powerful thing when you need to get things done.

When you face a problem and find a way to solve it or overcome it, your brain will release some feel-good chemicals to reward you. That positive feeling can then be used as a source of energy and motivation to tackle another problem, and another.

Start with something small. Find an issue that you know how to tackle even though you’ve been avoiding it thus far. Take the action required to address that issue and tick that thing off your list.

Slowly work your way through some of the more manageable, less scary, and less consequential problems to build up your momentum and the feel-good factor it gives you.

Then, whether alone or with the help of others, begin to look for ways to take on the bigger problems, the ones you’ve been running from for a while, or the ones that you don’t know how to deal with.

This goes against some of the advice you’ll read in self-help articles. Often, the advice is to “eat that frog” which means to tackle the biggest things first because they are the most important. But when you suffer from a lack of confidence and belief, or you have mental health issues such as depression, it’s not realistic to jump in at the deep end right away, at least not without professional help.

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One of the reasons you choose to run away from your problems may be because you don’t feel confident tackling them. You don’t believe in your abilities to take whatever actions need to be taken.

When you are confident, you act regardless of any fears or worries you may have about doing so. You recognize that this is something that needs to be done and you set about trying to do it.

If you struggle with either your self-confidence or self-belief or both, you might not even try to face things because whatever it is will seem insurmountable. Which is why you must tackle these mental roadblocks before you can address other problems.

How do you do that? Well, once again, if it’s affecting your life to this extent, it makes sense to work on these issues with the help of a therapist. They can provide the tools you’ll need to slowly build up the confidence and belief you have in yourself until the problems you are running from no longer feel so big or scary. Click here to find one now.

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Fear is often rooted in ignorance, a lack of knowledge about a particular subject. This fear is often a key factor when people run away from their problems.

We can work to dispel that fear by learning more about not only the challenge that we face, but also the process of confronting and overcoming it.

A therapist is a great place to start building on this knowledge, because you can generally trust them for good references to other books and materials about whatever problem it is you want to overcome. Click here to speak to a therapist today.

They can also help you develop a reasonable course of action where you will be able to determine your progress in your pursuit of success. That’s where short-term and long-term goals enter the picture.

It is absolutely important to have personal goals you want to pursue as you work on yourself. Not only do they provide you a framework for accomplishment, but they can also keep you motivated when you’re having a hard time.

You can look back at the things you accomplished, how far you’ve come, and know that you have the strength, willpower, and capability to accomplish more.

Goal-setting is an integral part of forward progress. After all, how will you know when you’ve reached your destination if you don’t know what your destination is? And when you do, take some time to celebrate your success before setting some new goals!

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Many journeys in life are lonely, but they don’t have to be. There are other people out there who are on similar paths, who have made similar journeys, who are striving to accomplish the same goals you are.

Not every trail needs to be blazed on your own, even if it is something personal. There are people out there that have already walked the paths that you are just now embarking on.

You may be able to find support in mental health communities, therapy, support groups, or even social media groups.

But, you do need to be cautious and exercise some careful judgment. If it’s a mental health or trauma-related challenge that you’re working to overcome, it’s a good idea to stay in carefully controlled spaces where professionals are present if possible. Consumer groups can be helpful, but they can also be negative or chaotic places at times.

Family and friends, while they may love and care about you, may not have the kind of knowledge required to provide you meaningful support and insight on your journey.

And then there are other times where we may find ourselves alone at a crossroads in our lives and professional support may be the only good option.

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1. Embrace discomfort and suffering.

Woah. Embrace discomfort and suffering? That’s a pretty strong statement, isn’t it?

Most positive and good things in life will inevitably include or bring some suffering. There’s no real way around that.

Do you want to experience a deep love? Then you have to accept that you will eventually feel a deep loss.

Do you want to lose weight? Then you have to accept dietary and lifestyle changes to make that happen.

Do you want a better job? Then you have to accept the uncertainty and discomfort of job searching, interviewing, or training for a new career.

There is nothing gained without some suffering, but many people are so intent on finding a vibrant, fictional happiness that they sabotage their ability to acquire meaningful things.

It is rare that anyone will accomplish anything without a lot of work, which sometimes means suffering through tedious and uncomfortable things.

To face your problems courageously, you’re going to have to accept that you aren’t going to feel comfortable. It’s not going to be an easy, happy, or pleasant process.

And before we continue on, a caveat. This is not to suggest that “everything happens for a reason” or that you should suffer through being treated disrespectfully or abused. It does not mean that you deserve to suffer. It only means that change is going to bring some pain with it. There’s no avoiding it.

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The world can be a difficult place. Sometimes it feels like we are being attacked from all sides externally, and sometimes internally.

The battles that we fight alone in our minds are some of the hardest. It’s easy to get overwhelmed by feelings of hopelessness, despair, or confusion. Those feelings can cause a person to run away from the problems they are facing.

Unfortunately, that doesn’t often work. A change of scenery or changing up one’s situation can be nice, but in a lot of scenarios it doesn’t actually solve the problem and prevent it from coming back in the future.

How can we find the courage to confront the problems and fears that we are most afraid of?

Speak to an accredited and experienced therapist to help you face up to the problems in your life. You may want to try speaking to one via BetterHelp.com for quality care at its most convenient.

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