Growing up you knew, even though it was perhaps never said out loud, that you were essentially on your own. Problem with a teacher? You solved it. Conflict with a friend? You figured it out yourself. Your childhood was a training ground for self-sufficiency. Now, as an adult, you prefer to do things yourself. Because you’re so very competent, the great thing is that for the most part, you can.
With their heads held high but their spirits lower than should be, they walk among us.
“I don’t need any help,” they say with a smile. But “what do you need?” they ask others with genuine interest.
Loved and respected by all who know them, they struggle to love and respect themselves. These are the people of Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN).
What is Childhood Emotional Neglect, or CEN? It’s a simple but powerful force in the life of a child. All it takes is growing up in a household where your feelings don’t matter enough.
Typically, I write about the special challenges of the emotionally abused or neglected, such as self-blame, self-directed anger, and low self-compassion. That’s because I want to help the people of CEN overcome them.
But truth be told, the emotionally neglected are some of the strongest adults I have ever met. Yes, it’s hard to believe, but there is a bright side to growing up emotionally ignored.
So now I’d like to highlight the particular strengths you likely have if you grew up this way.
More than two million litres of water were pumped from the reservoir in the search for the phone – said to contain sensitive government information – but when it was found, the waterlogged device would not switch on.
An Indian government official has been suspended after ordering a reservoir to be drained so he could find his phone.
Food inspector Rajesh Vishwas dropped his Samsung smartphone in Kherkatta dam while taking a selfie, The Times of India newspaper reported.
Over three days, more than two million litres of water were pumped from the reservoir so he could retrieve it.
The waterlogged phone was recovered, but would not switch on.
Mr Vishwas first asked divers to search for the phone, claiming it contained sensitive government data.
When they could not find it, he asked for the reservoir to be emptied using diesel pumps.
The water emptied from the dam would be enough to irrigate at least 1,500 acres of land, local media reported.
That’s right. Whether it’s the first date or the fifth date, one thing remains constant: We probably already know whether we want to see you again before we know if/when you are going to sleep with us. We won’t judge you if you want to do it on the first date and we won’t stop calling you if you want to wait until the fifth. If we want to see you again, we will.
As mature adults who know our limits when it comes to alcohol, we genuinely don’t mind if you loosen up a little bit or get a little giggly after too much wine. Feeling that you are comfortable around us will make us more comfortable around you.
Two things that should be obvious to this point, though:
Or less. Or the same. Or whatever. Men who are secure in themselves pay much more attention to who you are as a person and how you make us feel when we are around you, rather than what you choose to do for a profession. I would much rather be a woman with a beautiful heart and a beautiful mind than the CEO of a major company that is cold and callous.
The happiness that comes along with loving what you do is more important than a paycheck that comes along with something you don’t.
We all have insecurities — men included. Unless we look like Marky Mark’s Calvin Klein underwear ad, we have plenty of things we want to change about our own bodies, too. We just don’t talk about it as much. Odds are, the small things you are uncomfortable with are never anything a good man would complain about when being intimate with you. We just want to enjoy you.
Trust me, we appreciate the effort you put into looking great, whether it is just for yourself or for a nice event, or for your first date with us. But don’t be so hard on yourself. If we are spending time with you, we are doing it because we want to, regardless of how you look.
By James Michael Sama
Sometimes men get a bad rap for not noticing things, not paying attention to small details, and even just not listening in general.
While I do often disagree with many of these generalizations, it is true that there are some things guys don’t care about. But they might not be the kinds of things that you would think. Here’s a quick rundown.
U.S. intelligence reveals Russian President Vladimir Putin has already given his troops orders to proceed with an invasion into Ukraine, according to a new Sunday report.
‘The intelligence says that Russian troops have actually received orders now to proceed with the invasion,’ CBS News’ David Martin told Face the Nation host Margaret Brennan.
‘So not only are they moving up closer and closer to the border and to these attack positions, but the commanders on the ground are making specific plans for how they would maneuver in their sector of the battlefield,’ he added.
‘They’re doing everything that American commanders would do once they got the order to proceed.’
Martin’s revelation comes after President Joe Biden said Friday that he is very certain that Putin has already made up his mind that he will attack Ukraine based on D.C’s ‘significant intelligence capability.’
Meanwhile, America’s top foreign affairs officials warned Sunday that Putin’s moves show that Russia is ‘dead serious’ about invading Ukraine, but insist there likely won’t be a threat to U.S. troops.
‘He’s assembled the kinds of things that you would need to conduct a successful invasion,’ Defense Secretary Lloyd Austin told ABC’s Martha Raddatz of Putin in an interview tapped in Ukraine.
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