Look, I know you’re probably here because you did what you never thought yourself capable of doing- you had an affair, committed adultery, were unfaithful…whatever you want to call it.
What matters is the destruction it left in its wake; which came from your own choices. Once someone comes out of the affair fog and gains clarity to truly see the pain they’ve caused, it can be very hard to live with the reality of pain left behind.
You Feel Unrelenting Guilt For Hurting Your Husband So Deeply, And You Can’t Understand How You Brought This On Your Marriage.
Guilt’s gotten a bad rap- but it’s not all bad. So let’s first talk about guilt’s purpose.Guilt is there to warn you that you’ve gone off course and something is seriously wrong… think of it like a warning light on your car; ignore it long enough and your car will eventually break down leaving you stranded. So experiencing guilt, and letting that guide you to be truly sorry for what you’ve done is a good thing. Guilt should move you to true remorse to the point where you want to stop what you were doing wrong.
But some of us take guilt a little too far, and use it way past its expiration date-
staying guilty for something that you’ve already asked forgiveness for, and are trying to make right. But shame…ah shame, that’s different than guilt.
And I’m well acquainted with that one.
Persecution Live 