By Now You Might Be Thinking “Great, But What Does This Have To Do With My Shame And Inability To Forgive Myself Because Of My Affair?”

Everything, my friend! Because once you can grasp the full truth of God’s love and grace for you- you’ll want to run right into His arms. You’ll want to end that affair and get right with God, because there’s absolutely no love on this earth that can compare to the love HE has for you. Everything else is counterfeit and fake. God wants us to come to Him and tell Him we’re sorry for our sins against Him.  No sugar coating or blaming anyone else here.

He wants us to acknowledge that we need his forgiveness and receive the gift of what Jesus did on the cross for us, so we could have eternal life. It might seem to others (like those religious leaders) that it isn’t fair for someone to be forgiven for adultery, or any other sin for that matter. It might seem too easy, but it wasn’t easy for Jesus, it cost Him His life. Maybe, you already know all this. Maybe you’re already a Christian woman who had an affair and that’s added to your guilt and shame.  I truly get it.

Maybe you’re having a really hard time releasing that shame because you keep looking at yourself and what you did and hate it because ‘you knew better’.
Yea, I heard that in my head too. Remember, there is an accuser- Satan.  He wants you to stay stuck in your shame and continue hating yourself day after day. Why, you ask? Because if he can keep you thinking about your sins and not allowing yourself to receive the forgiveness God is offering you-
he can keep you stuck and ineffective in your life.

That means you can’t focus on how God can make beauty from ashes and you won’t really be able to help your husband heal, because you’re too focused on your own shame to listen to his pain- it just brings you back down again. If Satan can convince you you’re not worthy of forgiveness and encourage your shame spiral, then you’ll never fulfill the purpose and plans God has for you. If Satan can remind you of your past- and let you sit in the misery of what you did- you’ll never fully feel the love and freedom Christ is offering you. It’s like a wall is built around you and your shame is all you see. Do you see how subtle and sly that is?

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