Now that you know how you were treated, what do you want instead? Sure, you would love your mother to change and become a loving, caring version of herself, but that is not likely to happen.
Narcissists don’t change but that doesn’t mean you can’t have all that you want in your life.
It is not up to your mother. You are enough. It was never up to her. You were always enough, from the very beginning. When you decided to believe your mother’s version of you, you attracted proof to support it. Now, you get to un-choose the negative, mistaken beliefs and remember the truth.
So, who are you? Decide for yourself if you want to be loved, respected, valued, and cherished.